We lost our daughter suddenly 3 years ago it was the most horrendous shock we never got to see her because she died suddenly abroad they said she was evidence when she was repatriated she had deteriorated so much we were advised not to see her. My brother died just before my daughter..... Then 18 months later our youngest daughter was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor it was devasting news she has two children then a few months ago my sister who had come to support my daughter was diagnosed with the same brain tumor only more advanced she had no idea and died 5 weeks later. My youngest daughter is in a hospice on end of life care and we have been told she will die soon. My husband has leukaemia but in remission we have been through hell the last 3 years we don't know how we will ever cope with the loss of both our children. Our grandchildren are amazing but will be devastated when their mummy dies we need to be strong but I don't know how we are going to get through this we both feel so guilty are children have died before us it's the most painful experience to endure. 

Hi there ...and welcome ...

Bless ya ... life can be beond crule ... I've had lots of family go through so much in the last 3 years ... to where I was wondering what I'd done to deserve so much heartache ... but now listening to you, I'm not alone ... looks like we've both had a raw deal .. 

Lost one to lung cancer... one young lass to cystic fibrosis... with a young daughter .. a sister from dementure .....4 of us with breast cancer... and now my young granddaughter has been going through acute myeloid leukaemia... just getting through her stem cell transplant... after complications ... 

So I hope now you know your not alone ... how do we cope... : ((  we just do ... we go on for those still here who need us ... 

Your grandkids will so need you now .. and through them, you'll never loose your daughter ... they are half of her ... she will live through them ... and I found trying every day to find one thing that makes me smile , gets me through ... we can't let it beat us ... but I've had days where I look at the whole picture and it overwhelmes me and I give in to the flood of tears ... and I cuss and I give myself permission to be angry for a little bit ... then I get my boxing gloves on and face the next day ...

I'm here quite a lot .. it does us good to know there's so many going through so much too .. and to know wer not alone ... we just have to reach out ... so if you want a buddy through this time, I'm here .. I've got strong shoulders ... just let me know and I'll send you a friend request ... only if that will help ..

Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie x 

Thanks Chrisse glad we are not alone your sentiments helped so much my brother in laws cancer has spread to his brain just heard from my sister just now he's not very good so really feel for her too. You have gone through so much but your right about our grandchildren they are a source of inspiration it's so difficult seeing our daughters life ebb away though 

My heart goes out to you ... remember your not super human ... just human ... I'm here if you need me ... hold on in there ...  Chrissie x

Hi Chris s it's been Three months since my wife died I still think about every single day we got a gravestone now  I guess I'm really struggling with the death thing again and heaven I'm so desperate to please look at YouTube videos about angels and everything and that gives me hope I guess I would just love to make sure that she's up there waiting for me 

Hi Chris s it's been Three months since my wife died I still think about every single day we got a gravestone now  I guess I'm really struggling with the death thing again and heaven I'm so desperate to please look at YouTube videos about angels and everything and that gives me hope I guess I would just love to make sure that she's up there waiting for me