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Widowed pancreatic cancer

Lindaboi
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I lost my husband last week to pancreatic cancer just 12 weeks after being diagnosed. I'm only 36 and have 2 teenage sons who are missing the dad really badly. I have been emotional at times and then ok, i still feel numb and like this isn't real. My husband was received palliative care for the last 3 weeks of his life but had a trip to the hospital to get a stent put in so he could reciece chemo, unfortunately he took an infection and died a few days later. I was just wondering if anyone out there has been through similar and how did you cope.

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    Hello,Lindaboi,

    I totally feel for you.  I was 38 with 3 children of 13, 5 and 2 when my husband died.  That was 31 years ago and, although I have learnt to accept it and have got on with my life, it doesnt make the circumstances of his death any easier.  I bought up my children, worked really hard, did lots of charity work and then retired at 67. At 69 I was diagnosed with incurable cancer.  Life isn't fair but we are stronger than we think.

    It is still so new and raw for you, you must give yourself a great deal of time to work through this.  Time is a great healer, but that isn't a week or two, it's months or years. Encourage your sons to talk, they quite often are afraid in case they break down in front of you.  I do wish you well and hope that you soon find peace.  x

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    Hello,Lindaboi,

    I totally feel for you.  I was 38 with 3 children of 13, 5 and 2 when my husband died.  That was 31 years ago and, although I have learnt to accept it and have got on with my life, it doesnt make the circumstances of his death any easier.  I bought up my children, worked really hard, did lots of charity work and then retired at 67. At 69 I was diagnosed with incurable cancer.  Life isn't fair but we are stronger than we think.

    It is still so new and raw for you, you must give yourself a great deal of time to work through this.  Time is a great healer, but that isn't a week or two, it's months or years. Encourage your sons to talk, they quite often are afraid in case they break down in front of you.  I do wish you well and hope that you soon find peace.  x

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