Hi Jackie, I'm so sorry to hear about the recent death of your husband through pancreatic cancer. I wanted to welcome you to the forum where people on here are very caring and supportive and many can relate to your loss. I can imagine that his death was a terrible shock since he went so quickly after diagnosis. Its' good that you have a close friend and that your children are with you, but I'm sure they too are grieving the loss of their Dad as well. (I guess I'm assuming that he was their Dad; I apoligize if I'm wrong.) Just know that there are members of this forum who have also lost a partmer and can be a support to you. Come back on here and let us know how you are managing and to get support from others.

Take care.

Lorraine

Hi Lorraine, thanks for your response. My children are supportive, but my daughter lives 5 hours away and my son 2 hours away. I cannot seem to get motivated at all. Is that normal? All I do is a few chores then sit about most of the day thinking about my situation. As you say many people can relate to my loss. Last month I went to a bereavement group, but it's only held monthly which I do not feel is enough. Eating alone is awful and I do not have any appetite. I would appreciate knowing how others cope with their situation.

Hi Jackie,

i'm so sorry about your husband, my dad passed away from pancreatic cancer 3 weeks ago and to be honest it's still not completely hit me yet. He was diagnosed in July 2015, and in the year before that was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. Part of me thinks the cancer was already there, but they were too quick to diagnose diabetes.. but guess i'll never know! I cant imagine how you must be feeling especially since you didnt know what was wrong until very near the end, your husband will know he was very much loved and he's no longer in pain.. the worst part is watching them suffer. Just take it day by day.. and ask any questions you want.. you must have a lot of unanswered questions. 

Take care x

Hi Melissa. I am sorry your dad passed away with the same horrible cancer as my husband. The thing is he did not have any pain. He loss his appetite and was very tired. This type of cancer is known as the silent killer. I had a meeting with my doctors surgery as I needed answers. My husband had an itchy back since last December and had gone back several times with this. I asked them if this could have been the onset and was informed that it could have possibly started then. My daughter and I was with him until the end and he would have known how much we loved him. Life is very difficult without him.