My lovely Ally died after primary liver cancer took his life today.Im on my own and the grief im feeling is unbearable How can I get through this pain tonight
I know this pain is awful. I lost my mum last month, she was my best friend. She was diagnosed with oesophageal junction cancer on 1st May and passed away on the 14 July. Just as the shock wears away the loss kicks in.
I know you feel you can't get through this. But there are loads of us all over the world getting through it. You must remember you are not alone. My Dad is in the same position as you, it would have been their 30 year wedding anniversary next year. We are just taking things day by day. That's all you can do.
I have found writing a diary is helping. I have a section titled ' A memory a day stops them fading away'. Every day as write a memorable moment of my Mum, however little.
Sophia remember your husband will be with you and comforting you. He will always be there, I know it's hard as we miss them physically, but he is there.
Remember to take things slowly, time will get you through the pain.
Oh, sophia, there is nothing I can say that will help you. Losing a much loved husband is a terrible thing to happen and the only thing that will help is time. Grieve. Cry, vent your feelings and, eventually, you will find you have got through a day with just lovely thoughts. I so feel for you, my own husband died 31 years ago but even now I don't dwell on that time or I will break down.
Please come and talk to us anytime. I know it is early days, but in time, if you think it would help, ask your local Macmillan nurse if there are any counselling services - sometimes talking to a stranger really can helo,
We are so sorry to hear you just lost your husband and just wanted to send you, on behalf of the Cancer Chat team, our sincere condolences. I hope the night wasn't too hard and that you managed to get some sleep. You have come to the right place though for support as many here have also lost a loved one and can really relate to how you are feeling.
So sad to read your post. Fully understand your pain as lost my hubby of 37 years to Mesothelioma in January. To be honest I did not sleep the first night (he passed away late evening and out of hours service was rather slow in getting here) but, unlike yourself, my children travelled to be with me which was a comfort to us all (though think we were all on auto pilot for some time and had to be guided through may diffrent emotions/processes). The only way I coped/still coping was by taking it slowly hour by hour and then day by day. I let the tears fall and never hide my grief from family and friends and took support from those who offered it. I had joined this fourm during my husband's journey with cancer and the forum supports/chats to me still so hope you find it is somewhere you can come whenever you need to. Jules54
