I lost my husband 4 months ago to Non Hodgkins Lymphoma and i can't seem to come to terms that I won't see him again and all I can see when I close my eyes are his last few moments of his life. Please can you tell me how to cope.
Hi Hilky, So sorry to see the reason you have joined this forum, but welcome. I am a bit further down the track from you, hubby passed away Oct 2014. As time goes on we adapt to coping better. One day I woke up not crying once I realised that this was all not just a bad dream. Takes a while though but that's all quite " normal " Eventually the memories you have of hubbys last days will be replaced by good memories of happier times. I think it all depends on each individual as to when this happens, but it will. Nowadays I am ok most of the time, but I am fortunate in the support of family and friends. Hope this helps Kathy xx
Welcome to the forum though sad to read why you need to be here. I lost my hubby in January and mycoping mechanism (most of the time) was to keep busy and cope on a day to day basis.Whilst I can still remember those last sad hours (hubby chose to stay at home until his journey ended) they do not haunt me now but timescales are different for everyone. Still have some emotional fall outs but feel this is expected during the grieving process. I have been supported by good friends and my adult children/grandchildren (well we support each other) as well as talking with my GP for the first few months. She was a great support.
I joined this forum during my hubby's illness and sometimes do not know where we get the strength from to move forward, albeit slowly. Chatting feelings through and realising that I am not the only one going through such a journey has helped and the virtual support lets you offload knowing others do understand. As I am a little further along this journey I can say that I am finding that setting myself small 'new' challenges has given me a purpose but its not for everyone. I still need support and expect that it normal as well. Do come and chat as and when you feel the need as there are many understanding people here. Sending a virtual hug.Jules54
