What do we do now?

Hello all, I posted for a while as kessygirl, about my dad. Well , as regulars will know, he died on 4  May. The few weeks afterwards were almost euphoric due to the relief and the amazing amount of family members that really stepped up to the plate. But now, what do I do? My poor mum, bereft of her soulmate of 54 years! And me, with my young family to take care of ?how can I care for her and be me!!!???

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  • Hi Kessygirl, I'm so sorry you lost your Dad to this terrible disease. I think right now, the reality of your Dad being gone is setting in which is the usual way things go after a death. During the funeral and for awhile after, relatives, friends, etc. are milling around and being supportive, which is great, but what many people forget is family members still need emotional support after everything is over. This is when the full impact of your Dad's death is starting to sink in and the shock of his death, (yes, I know you knew he was dying) is now your new "normal". Life, as you and your Mom once knew is no more. This is when you have to start adjusting to the realty of living without your Dad and it is very different than it was. It is hard, but it is necessary and part of the process of grieving. Just know that it won't be this hard forever and eventually, you and your Mom will come to terms with your lives without your Dad. Give yourselves the time you need to grieve and mourn his loss as you comfort one another. Don't hesitate to ask family and friends to help when needed. You will get through this.

    Come on to the forum whenever you want to cry, rant, and offload. There's usually someone to respond eventually and you will get support here. Perhaps not as good as in person, but certainly very genuine virtual support.

    Take care and sending you hugs.

    Lorraine 

  • Thanks Lorraine, I'm mostly worried about my mum as it's her life that's been turned upside down. Shes a very strong lady and is keeping herself busy with loads of things. But I know that when the winter comes and she can't stay in the garden pottering around most of the evening, it'll really hit her hard. Im going to suggest to her that she joins the forum and I'll come off of it so she can post freely and without me reading it! There are lots of people who I think can relate to what she's going through. She's not very savvy with these things but it's so easy she'll get to grips with it! Thanks again x

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  • Thanks Lorraine, I'm mostly worried about my mum as it's her life that's been turned upside down. Shes a very strong lady and is keeping herself busy with loads of things. But I know that when the winter comes and she can't stay in the garden pottering around most of the evening, it'll really hit her hard. Im going to suggest to her that she joins the forum and I'll come off of it so she can post freely and without me reading it! There are lots of people who I think can relate to what she's going through. She's not very savvy with these things but it's so easy she'll get to grips with it! Thanks again x

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