Hello Will,

I think in coming to this forum and reaching out to others, you have made an important step that will hopefully help you a little.

There is a section on our site which is about Coping with Grief which I recommend you read as it will tell you more about the different stages involved in the grieving process. Grief is a very personal thing and there is no right or wrong way to react.

You will meet others here who have also lost a parent and they can really understand how you are feeling. So I will stop talking now and will let them come and say hello!

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Will. I b was sorry to read about your loss.  Dad's can't be replaced - but be assured he is proud of you and will always watch over you. I faced the same and found it very hard.  I took up running and went out most days.  That really helped.  I also decided to learn a new sport - I chose wind surfing - that really helped cos every time I was thinking of pop - I fell off the board and into the water. I also took up sailing.  These new sports slowly changed my way of thinking and healed me. They best was the surfing asi met a whole lot of people- really different from my friends.

Cheers

steve

Hi, Will, I don't think you ever get over losing your father, but you do learn to live with the loss.  My husband died 30 years ago when my children were very young and they still miss him now, always remembering his birthday etc, when they achieve something good in life they always attribute it to him (never me. :-) .  It doesnt matter how old or how long ago that your loss is you will still have times when you feel you cant cope.

Your dad would want you to have a good life,. I suspect having just got back after 3 months it has bought all the memories flooding back.  Try to immerse yourself in building your life now and build some good memories of your own.  My best wishes to you, Will.