Hi Sara, 

Sorry that I have not been in touch for ages. I hope you are doing as well as you can be. I hope going back to work hasn't been too tough, although it was hard I found going back gave me a sense of normaility at least for the hours that I was there. 

This weekend will be a tough one for you, it sounds a nice idea to release balloons. I still do find it tough going to the cemetary but like you say we have to think about them being elsewhere now and that the spot in the cemetary is just a memorial. 

Maybe you could go for a nice meal out with your sisters or something to make it a little easier. 

Keep in touch, I will be thinking about you on Sunday. 

Lots of love

Emma xxx

Hi Sara

Can totally understand your feelings regarding Mothers' Day (felt much the same way when had the first Fathers' Day when I lost my Dad) and 'first anniversaries' of all important dates in the lives of our loved ones are especially emotional.  Think the idea of releasing balloons with your sisters is a beautiful way to remember Mum. It will be a peaceful rememberance.  Let your emotions guide you as to how you cope day to day and hope the forum can continue to virtually' hold your hand' for as long as you need it.

I am facing similar feelings as it would have been hubby's birthday soon and am still not sure how to get through it as my son and daughter will be feeling much like you and though adults  they need my support too but I will be working that day so not really sure what to do.  One step at a time I suppose.  Look after yourself and will keep you in my thoughts this coming Sunday.Jules

Hello Heartbreaking,

I just wanted you to know that we are thinking of you for tomorrow as it will be such a difficult day for you, as your mum  passed away only a couple of weeks ago. I was inspired by your message here and by that of another forum poster who was also dreading Mother's day and I decided to start a thread in which we could celebrate and remember our mums, thinking in particular of people like you for whom tomorrow will not be an easy day.

I called my thread 'Inspirational Mums' so we could celebrate and thank our mums for what they have taught us and show how they have made us the person we are today. So if it isn't too difficult for you emotionally, you can write a little something for your mum here.

Warmest wishes and thinking of you and your family during this difficult time,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Emma :)

That is no problem at all i come on here every few days so i can be a bit rubbish with replying sometimes!

Going back to  work has been good for me, although as soon as i leave i think about everything again, but this is to be expected its very early days!

2nd week at work for me mothers day was yesterday and was very hard but we got through, it is still very raw and felt way to soon to be going back to the cemetary! As there is no head stone there yet it does make it more distressing and stuff but it wont be there untill around September. The next time i go will be my mums bday in June.  me and my 2 sisters let loads of balloons go into the sky one spelt out MAX and the other said mum an similar things. We videoed it to as her husband wanted to see it. We took some flowers and we managed to slot in our mothers day cards in the mud and kind of hide them :)  i hope she reads them. When i got home i lit a candle and put it next to her photo. Me and my sisters went to a cute little cafe after that my mum loved so that was nice.

Still cant beleive she is gone, i think about her all the time, last night i had a good old cry, some days im ok others im not. I now wear a locket around my neck with 2 pics of her in, it makes me feel close to her.

How are you doing?? hows your job? keep in touch i really like using this site it does help me and the people on here are just lovely! xxx