Peaceful passing

My dad passed away a fortnight ago.  The worst day of my life was when he was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer. He was given 2 to 12 months. He did really well through out treatment, and a scan halfway through showed that chemo had significantly reduced the cancer, but after 7 months We were told it was much more aggressive than anticipated and had spread to his brain. 

From diagnosis to passing was 9 months. And through it all he was positive, determind and courageous, and he showed me the way and helped me through because he was very honest and open, we shared a few tears together, reminisced many happy memories    And discussed how life would be with out him.   If you can ever see a bright side, I've got to tell you that my dad was spared, 3 days before he died we called out the doctor and we were told he had a collapsed lung, rather than go into hospital we had oxygen at home and   Brought his bed down stairs for a couple of nights or so we thought, the following morning my mum found him in his chair, there was no stress on his face, he looked like he was peacefully sleeping, we were totally shocked, but but we're very great full that he did not suffer. My mum has been so brave and courageous since and I am so very proud of her.

 

 

 

  • I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. I know from your posts that it has been a difficult journey.  I am sure your mum feels proud of you too, and equally sure that Dad admired you both for the way you coped during his illness. It is a comfort to know that he died so peacefully. Keep in touch now and then Mcvxxx.  Max x

  • Yes max I did find it incredibly difficult to cope with, I was very close to my dad. and one of the things I couldn't get my head around was the lack of definite answers, may be I'm a bit ocd but when I would ask the consultant a question he would kind of answer in a round about way with out actually giving me an answer. 

    I wasn't sure if anyone would remember me here because I wasn't here for long, I suppose I couldn't handle facing things. But I certainly will keep in touch x 

  • The consultants/oncologists do tend to be a little like politicians with their answers but I guess in fairness to them it is impossible to give definite answers with this disease. 

    It's good to know that you will stay in touch when you can - I am sure many people here who are going through a similar journey to yours, will benefit from your support. Take it a day at a time and don't expect too much of yourself, you have been through so much and it will take time to heal. Much love to you and your family x

  • Hi

    Im sorry to hear of the loss of your dad, my mummy passed last saturday and i am going back to work tomorrow. The funeral was on tuesday, it was very hard. She was only 56 and left behind me and my 2 sisters and her husband. Maybe we can help each other through, take care Sara.