My inspirational mum

My inspiration is my mum. She fought Breast and Skin canver for 4 years, she sadly past away in 2009, I was 17 years old and she was 57. I wasn't very very close to my mum, mainly a daddy's girl. I wanted to share some words of wisdom from her and how she coped during her illness in hope that she can inspire others as she inspired me.

Although my mum went through an imense amount of pain and suffering she always had a smile on her face, she was always laughing and never took herself seriously. In a way I believe she thought why be miserable about this? Yes it's tough and effects everyone, it's painful, scarry and takes away parts of you bit by painstaking bit. However the one thing it can't take is your spirit. 

Whenever the district nurses visited to remove the pads that was acting like her skin because the cancer was practically eating her away, there would be shouts of pain but for the most part giggling and laughter, jokes and taking the mickey. 

In the hospital she would banter with the nurses, doctors and even patients! As they ssay laughter is the best medicine and it's true.

Sometimes you do need 5 minutes to just take a break from it all, a place where you can let go, you need to expell those feeling you bottle up because it's like shaking a can of pop, at some point when you open it all the fizz will explode out and the liquid will be calm again. 

It doesn't matter what people think of your situation, an opinion is not a fact, seek help when it's offered and it's ok to cry.

My mum inspires me to have a positive outlook on life, no matter what it is. She inspires me to help people who have/ are going through what I did. She inspires me to have hope that one day this awful desease will cease to exist.

I hope that this message will inspire you to do the same, you are not alone. 

  • Thats lovely = good old Mum!!

    I think you are right = its funny - but we cry most days = cancer is such an emotional thing - it really is!!!

    TBH = I may chuck out my mobile phone - things were less stressy in the 1990's - before anyone had them. I have been thinking about this -

    whats your view?

    xxx

  • Thank you, yep Mums the word :)

    That is very true it's sruprising how one thing can have a momumental effect on not just the person who is fighting it but everyone else around them. I've cried, laughed, been freightened, angry all of the above!

    My view on mobiles you mean? Well I'm a 90's kid and yes it was less stressful however I do think that it's up to the individual, we make ourselves worse because we have access to tones of information and we can mishandle it.

    Really it's up to you if you feel you'd benefit, give it a try and see how you go. x

  • Hi Natypop,

    What a wonder tribute you have written about your mother. She sounds to have been a wonderful person and someone who eniriched the lives of many people. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

    She must be very, very proud of the caring daughter she brought up. 

    Cancer has taken several people from my life including my mother and I have also had a brush with it too which is why I am here on this site. We can all use our experiance of cancer to not only help ourselves but to also help other so thank you for joining this great forum. I feel you will be someone who will become a regular on here and who will be offering help and support to many on here, which is what this site is all about. Thank you, Brian

  • Hi Brian,

    Thank you so much for your kind words, she was very much so no matter who she met she would make them feel welcome and she would be interested in their lives.

    For sure, I believe that sharing experiences gives people hope, understanding and hopefully they will feel as though they are not alone.

    I'm sorry that it's effected so many of your family members, how have you been lately? As you said that you had a brush with it, do hope you are better now.

    I'll try my best to be on here as much as I can because as I say I'm here to help.

    No need to thank me Brian, take care of yourself x

  • Hi Natypop,

    Thank you for your kind words. Yes I had a brush with prostate cancer and I was so lucky my wife made me go to my GP. In doing so she probably saved my life for the GP was on the ball and sent me for tests which eventually confirmed I had prostate cancer with a high PSA. Luckily I have made a very good recovery which is why I joined this forum to try and help others. 

    I have been a member for nearly three years and have talked to many lovely people on here during that time and who have suffered as a result of cancer. People sometimes dont believe me when I say it has changed my life for the better for I appreciate all those little things in life that most of us take so much for granted. It is often said, "We dont know what we have until we lose it"; well the same applies when we are told we have cancer for our brain atomatically assumes the worst.

    I have made some wonderful forum buddies during my time on here and hope to keep on supporting others. Take care best wishes, Brian.