Hi Sara I've seen your posts and just thought I'd pop up :) I lost my mum 16 months ago to oral cancer so I too know how it feels for the first thing in your mind when you wake up is my mums got cancer and then again the last thing before you go to sleep is the same thing. You sort of live in a blur everything revolves around that one word. I'm an only child there was only ever me and my mum so when she got diagnosed my world shattered I became the parent and she was like my child the more time went on.For 7 months I cared for her learnt things about medication feeds through tubes, things I never knew I'd ever be able to do but when it comes to your mum you can do anything. I was extremely blessed in the fact the my boyfriend at the time (husband now we married in the suggest before my mum passed in the October) made it quite clear that he wanted her to live with us from day 1 as soon as she was to come out of hospital. We had 2 boys at the time so life was a bit hectic but we survived.
I don't really know where I'm going with this bit I think the main thing is to always have hope I always believed in my head she could get better although in my heart I knew she wouldn't get better I had to live with my head rather than heart to get through the days because it's hard it really is.
when you feel like your rambling keep rambling, when you want to cry cry and when you want to smile smile because your mum like mine would never give up on you and you'll never give up on her. Xxxxxxxxxxx
Hi Sara - so sorry to hear about your mum - my mum has also just been diagnosed with terminal bone cancer so I totally understand your fear- I rang Macmillan and they were able to help me to talk about and understand my fears - I would be happy to share our journeys if you feel I can support in any way as I feel this is going to be a very difficult and sometimes lonely journey ahead despite all of the support from family and friends x
Hi Sara, I am so sorry to hear about yor mum. I lost my dear, wonderful mum 16 months ago. Itvisvher birthday today. I wouldn't presume to know how you feel or what is going to happen over the coming months but what I do know is that you will go through many emotions over the coming months and years. To some extent I am sure I was in denial when I was caring for my mum. I focused on doing everything that I could for her physically and emotionally. Spending that precious time with her means that I am left no regrets about what I could have done. For that I am grateful. As we entered the final stages of her illness, my mum talked of her concern that for me to nurse her was too much of a burden on me. The Dr. told my mum that it was a privilege for a daughter to be able to care for her mum. How true that was.
Try to focus on what you can do for her. There is plenty of time for grief later.
Hi all sorry I don't have time to reply separately was quite hard for me to read all these messages as I wrote them weeks ago Before my mum passed. She has been gone a month on Saturday. Life is very hard ATM I'm ok when I'm at work but as soon as I come home it hits me. I want her back I miss her. She was taken way too soon. I may need counselling at some pint to help me get through this. Those of u that still have your loved ones cherish them don't have any regrets like I do now sara x
