My Very Sad Loss

Hi my lovely Forum friends

Today I have cried and cried and I am still crying, this is the night when people have a lovely time just before Christmas, I know I am selfish and I know I am wrong to want my lovely David back after he suffered so much.  This would have been an evening when we would have gone out for a romantic meal and a bottle of wine and you know what I still miss him so very much.  I can't get him out of my head or my heart he was my soul mate and I loved him so very much.  I have managed to do the Christmas decs and wrap the Christmas gifts but for what I am sat here alone and going through hell as I am  sure many, many people are.  What is this all about why do we have to suffer this terrible pain called grief,  I think I have just taken twenty steps backwards.

Please forgive me for feeling like this I just feel so sad.

Beryl x

  • Hello my lovely Joan

    Well I have just got home after spending the night at my sons  I had a lovely meal there and as it was my grandsons birthday we had birthday cake, the whole works etc.,  I did enjoy the company but today the tears have arrived again as it is valentines day and I always got a lovely card and flowers from my lovely David.  I can imagine how you are feeling today Joan and my heart goes out to you especially as you and your Doug got engaged on valentines day, these anniversarys are killers and do not help at all with the healing process, so I do hope you are ok sweetheart.

    As I stayed at my sons last night when I arrived home Maggie and Poppet won't look at me honestly you would think I have been away for a month the way they are behaving talk about cupboard love.

    I do hope you enjoyed your lunch with your friend Joan if I lived nearer to you I would be there like a shot.  I do hope you enjoy your day in York and I do hope it stops raining for you as it is pouring down here.  It was awful driving along the motorway from my sons house but never mind I am home all my chores are done so I am going to read my newspaper and watch some tele

    Take care loads of love and hugs

    Beryl xxxxx

  • Hello again to dear Beryl

    So lovely to hear from you again. 

    Well we did have a really good day out in York yesterday but I didn't get an outfit for my niece's wedding so I still need to keep looking. The river Ouse in York has once again burst it's banks and is swamping all the businesses along the riverbank. It's astonishing to see so much water flowing so fast through the centre of the city, and seeming to get deeper and deeper as you watch. The little pub on the river bank in the centre of York must be very resilient (Kings Arms) as they remain open for business although you can't enter from the main door because you would have to swim a fair distance to even reach the door! Then you probably couldn't open the door because of the weight of the water against it. So they open the side door for their customers and will not let a few extra feet of water to ruin their business. What a beautiful and proud city to visit, I do love York.

    I hope Maggie and Poppet are now friendy with you again, our cats are very snooty to say the least Beryl. Cheeky little madams! At least Poppy wasn't too bad when I got home last night at 10pm - I let her out but she didn't seem to want to stay out for too long, thankfully. She snuck into my bed sometime during the night so she must have felt very cold, but when I woke this morning she wasn't in the bed but waiting for me to let her out - at 6.10am! So much for my Sunday lie in eh?

    So, wedding outfit? might have to have a trip into Newcastle unless I find something else soon. Just wish I wasn't so fat.............

    Joan

    xx

  • My Dear Joan

    I am so pleased you had a good day in York, but sorry you didn't get your outfit fancy all that water,  it is like that in Winchester which isn't too far away from me here in Southampton.  I have never been to York but my lovely David has he went there on a course with his job, he said it was a beautiful city.

    Maggie and Poppet are back to normal with them both squabbling over who should sit on my knee, how is Poppy.  I do love cats and I would give another little kitten a home but I am afraid in case something should happen to me what would become of them.

    So it is a trip to Newcastle now is it, and I am sure you are not fat, you are just like me in your thinking I always used to say to my lovely David do I look fat and he always used to answer by saying no you are perfect I wish I was.

    Well My lovely I am going to watch some tele and I send you love and hugs

    Beryl xxxxxx

  • Hello dear Beryl

    Well not too much to report, I met up with an old work colleague today for lunch and a wee drink, we try to meet about once a month just to catch up. We had a good time but as usual I was glad to get back home. Strange that, actually wanting to come home to an empty house....  oh. I just realised a few minutes ago that I am supposed to ring the accountants with my cleaning hours to make sure I get paid, I forgot! There's always a first time! I'll ring them tomorrow but if they say I'm too late they can get lost. Bigger and better things to be worrying about. Like my tax bill which is turning into a nightmare-mostly due to the useless pension company who can't answer a simple question! However I'm made of strong stuff and I won't be beaten, not when I know I'm right.

    Yes I love cats too Beryl, there is a gorgeous black and white one that comes here quite often. I don't know if it's a girl or a boy but the markings of it are just so much like my beautiful Holly who died in December 2011 - I often wonder if they are related as we took Holly in as a stray so this cat could be one of her relatives (wishful thinking). But like you I daren't take to so many as I do worry about their welfare if I wasn't here.

    Well, tomorrow I'm off to my friend's for our weekly computer session! Then if we have time we will be out for our lunch and a cheeky glass of wine!

    Take care Beryl, hear from you soon

    Love Joan

    xxxx

  • Hello Dear Joan

    Sorry I haven't been on line for a few days but I have actually been out I went to a 40th birthday last Friday with friends and yeasterday Sunday I went for lunch with them it was so nice to have a bit of company I then went back to their house for coffee and then out came the wine which led to us dancing all night.  I wonder if the wine had anything to do with it.  Anyway it got late and they insisted I stay the night so I arrived home today at 10am and Joan I did enjoy it.  I am shattered today so not much has been done here.  My daughter is coming for dinner tomorrow and another friend is coming for lunch on Wednesday so I Amin for a busy week at last.

    The cats are not speaking to me as I dared to stay out for the night  aren't they the funniest of animals.  Very pleased to report the daffodils are coming out in my garden and my crocus look fab.

    I do hope you had a good weekend Joan did you go to your club that you like, how is Poppy and most of all how are you have you sorted your tax out yet I do hope it all comes good for you.

    Well my luv I have nothing else to report take care loads of love and hugs

    Beryl xxxx

  • Hi my lovely friend Beryl

    I am so pleased to read about your recent busy few days and yes I bet the wine had something to do with the dancing! It sounds as if you've had a well deserved few happy days out with friends and family. It's just a pity that the lovely cats have fell out with you but I'm sure they will forgive you as soon as you give them their favourite cat food. Yes Poppy is doing ok, still very stand offish, so unlike my gorgeous Holly who almost used to strangle me with her cuddles, how I miss her.

    My friend and I went to the little club again on Saturday, we do have a good time there. Won't be going back for a couple of weeks so it will be even more to look forward to when we go back!

    I haven't yet sorted out my tax problems, due to the pension company dragging their heels when I've asked them to provide me with information. I have today put in a complaint with the pension company as they keep giving me conflicting information which I'm then expected to send off to the tax office. I've had to send what information I've got to the tax office but it's incomplete so who knows what will happen next?

    This Sunday my friend is coming through from Durham to watch the cup final, not very hopeful that we will get a good result but I do believe in miracles!

    I hope you have a lovely lunch tomorrow with your friend - so pleased you are having a hectic week!

    Lots of love, Joan

    xxxx

  • Hi my lovely Joan

    I am so sorry not to be in touch but I have been feeling very down and sad I have just been missing my lovely David so much and I just didn't think it was right to come on here and inflict my misery on to this wonderful forum and place my misery on to people who are going through hell themselves.  Anyway  I am feeling a little better now and have told myself that I will just have to get on with it  I am so cross with myself why do I find life so difficult after all it is 17 months since David lost his battle  and I know he would hate to see me like this.

    How are you I do hope you are well and still enjoying your little club have you got your wedding outfit yet I do hope so and I hope Poppy is well mine have to go into the vets today for their injection I am a bag of nerves as they hate going.

    Well take care Joan and please forgive me for not writing.

    Love and hugs Beryl xxxx

    Hello my lovely forum friends

    So sorry not to have been on to talk but like I said to Joan I have been feeling so terribly sad of late and miss my lovely David so much and you all have enough to put up with without me going on.  I do hope you are all well and enjoying this lovely weather

    Love and hugs to all

    Beryl xxxxx

  • Oh Beryl,

    You are not inflicting your misery on your forum friends. Good friends are here for you in bad times as well as the good. That's why this forum exists so that when we are feeling low, we have somewhere we co go to talk to people who understand what we are going through. So please dont ever feel you are inflicting your self on us.

    I take it Brian is still visiting you for his nuts, he is one lucky squirrel. Have you been able to get out into your garden yet? Ours is still wet but it is drying up nicely and managed to mow the lawns with the flymo to get the first cut done.

    Take care Beryl, best wishes, Brian


  • Hi Brian

    Lovely to hear from you i have been feeling so sad these last few weeks it is so gard to think that i will never see my lovely David again and it hurts so much. 

    Brian is still as fat as butter and looking very well, but the most awful thing is i have frog spawn in my pond and you know my feelings towards frogs they are my pet hate can you imagine there will be frogs all over my garden ugh.  Luckily enough I have  been able to get into the garden it had a light mow yesterday and all bushes have been trimmed.

    I do hope you are keeping well and also Mrs B is well too stressed this morning my cats have to go to the vets for their injections so i am creeping about trying to keep them calm.

    Lovely to hear from you

    Hugs and love

    Beryl xxxx

  • Morning Beryl

    Naughty girl!  You know we would rather you share any time with your forum buddies (though also understand that sometimes its just too hard to put things into words).

    I hope your visit to the vets goes smoothly and you can get back and have a soothing cuppa and maybe sit outside!!  I have managed to mow the lawn and begun the never-ending task of weeding the back garden borders.  Just finished an hour out there and have come in to give the back a break and enjoy a coffee.  Just waiting for hubby to get ready and then we will be off to the supermarket  (needs must).

    Take care Beryl and come and chat anytime - its why this forum exists.  Sending peaceful thoughts and hugs. Jules xx