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Lost both parents to cancer within the space of a month. I've never felt so lonely and lost

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I'm an only child and have just lost both parents to cancer within 4 weeks of each other. I've lost my entire family in one month and sorting two cremations at the same time. Just to add to the madness there is no funeral.

I have genuinely never felt so lonely and lost in my life 

  • Hello Epi and welcome to the Cancer Chat forum.

    I am so, so, sorry to hear what has happened. I can't begin to imagine how difficult and painful this must be for you right now but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that you are not alone and I'm sure some of our members who have also experienced the same loss and heartbreak will stop by soon to offer their support and advice.

    I'm not sure from your post if you have any extended family but if you do, don't hesitate to lean on them or any close friends for help and support at this time as this is a lot to deal with on your own and I'm sure they will want to do all they can to help you at this time.

    Coping with grief can be very tough but we are here for you Epi, and will do all we can to support you.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Grief is a funny thing. I recommend counselling. Welcome to the forums. I hope you find a good counsellor soon. 

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    I am so sorry, Epi.It's hard to lose your parents and especially so close together that way. I hope you have some support from family or friends and I recommend going for counselling too, because sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger about your feelings. I'm an only child and lost both my parents when I was young. I was referred to a counsellor and she was so helpful.I was able to talk about my feelings in a way I wouldn't have done to someone I knew. As for not having a funeral, if it's something you feel you need, maybe an alternative can be arranged. Some way to say goodbye that suits you and that doesn't have to be an actual formal funeral. Again, I am so sorry for your loss and please know you can talk here too. Take care of yourself. Gill xx 

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