My good friend told me that her breast cancer had spread to her bones a few years ago. We’d tend to meet up every 2-3 months and through her treatment, we stuck to this as she wanted to try to keep things as normal as possible. I knew the day would come though when she’d say she was too ill to meet, and that’s now happened.

She’s responded to one message with a brief text to say she’ll be back in touch when she can so I don’t want to force anything. I offered to visit but she had politely declined in the message.

I respect that but I also think about her every day and I guess I feel that I never did tell her how much I looked up to her and thats she’s such an amazing person.  But I don’t want to go too full on with a message/ card as she will read that as a ‘goodbye’ message. Or should I? Can I send something to her house?  I also want to respect her space and time left as she’ll want to spend that with family.

if anyone has been through something similar, I’d appreciate any thoughts. I know everyone is different but I thought I’d try here. I also don’t want to make this about me or my regrets but I do think about her a lot and can shake off the feeling that I should be doing more in this situation x