Loss of my husband and brother to oesophageal cancer.

My husband passed away two years ago to this type of cancer. He died at home because nothing could be done for him and it was his wish to be at home. 
It was a very difficult time for us both. A living death until he passed. My brother who was 59 also died of this type of cancer 20 months before my husband. 
My brother had recently divorced so I spent a lot of time caring for him. My mother who I cared for to also died 5 months after my brother. 
For the first year I was in a fog. Then reality struck. 
I really did not know where to seek help for myself. 
Im still trying to cope with the trauma. 
I had never heard of this type of cancer. You don’t until 2 loved ones die of it. 

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  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Jula12.
    I’m so sorry to read about the losses you’ve been through. Losing your husband, your brother, and then your mum in such a short space of time is an unimaginable amount for one person to cope with, and it’s completely understandable that you're still trying to make sense of it all.
    Caring for someone through cancer can be incredibly hard, and the way you described it as a “living death” really captures just how emotionally draining and heartbreaking it can be.
    Many people here will relate to that sense of not knowing where to turn for support, especially when the grief hits more deeply later on. You might find this page from our website helpful as it talks about coping with grief after someone dies, and some people find comfort in knowing they’re not alone in how they’re feeling.
    Please do keep posting if it helps to talk about what you’ve been through, we’re here to listen.
    With warm wishes,
    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator
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  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Jula12.
    I’m so sorry to read about the losses you’ve been through. Losing your husband, your brother, and then your mum in such a short space of time is an unimaginable amount for one person to cope with, and it’s completely understandable that you're still trying to make sense of it all.
    Caring for someone through cancer can be incredibly hard, and the way you described it as a “living death” really captures just how emotionally draining and heartbreaking it can be.
    Many people here will relate to that sense of not knowing where to turn for support, especially when the grief hits more deeply later on. You might find this page from our website helpful as it talks about coping with grief after someone dies, and some people find comfort in knowing they’re not alone in how they’re feeling.
    Please do keep posting if it helps to talk about what you’ve been through, we’re here to listen.
    With warm wishes,
    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator
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