Welcome to the Cancer Chat community lostmysparkle although I'm very sorry to hear of your sister's passing. You have my sincerest and most heartfelt condolences for your loss.

Coping with grief, especially so close to that time of year which was so special to you both, must be incredibly difficult but I'm glad you've reached out to us as many of our members will understand how you are feeling, so you are not alone lostmysparkle, and hopefully it won't be long until some of them stop by to offer their support and advice.

I'm not sure from your post if you have looked in to or thought about bereavement counselling, but quite a few of our members have found it really helpful when they have been struggling, so if you'd like to find out more, do be sure to look at the support and resources provided by the bereavement charities Cruse and Sue Ryder. 

Do keep posting if you have it helps lostmysparkle, and remember that we will be here to support you in any way we can.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I am so sorry to hear that. My uncle died while I was getting my first pancreatic transplant and I was simply told he had a letter for me. It’s ok, you can get through this, your sister wants you to enjoy this year.

Hi Lostmysparkle,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister and know how painful it can be to lose someone so close. Grief is a very personal thing and it can take some of us longer to come to terms with this, than others. It is only natural that you will miss your sister and the activities that you did together.

I am sure that she would not want you to feel so bereft. Try to live your life, as you know, she would want you to. Do things that you know would make her proud. Even though this may only be going to the shops, or into company at first, these small steps are big steps at present, and you will gradually accomplish more.

It must be very difficult for you to pick up the pieces, when you have no other siblings and your parents are also dead. Do you have any friends or other relatives, who you could confide in? It doesn't do you any good to bottle up your feelings and we all need to talk. I see that our moderator, Steph, has already suggested some bereavement charities, which may help you.

There are five stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. You might find it helpful to look these up. We all come to terms with this in our own time. It is still early days for you, having just lost your sister so recently. Be kind to yourself and take life one day at a time, or even hour by hour, if need be.

Please keep in touch. Remember, that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx