Hi Flips71

My deepest condolences I lost my husband 15 years ago due to metastatic lung cancer it surely is the most heartbreaking time..my husband had been ill for some time trips to and from hospital however the cancer was not diagnosed after his death… all I can suggest is you take one day at a time yes it does get easier only now I can look back and treasure all the memories we made together I take great comfort from this 

sending you loads of virtual hugs x

Dear flips71, 

                   First of all i'm so sorry for your loss,you'll be heart broken, my only advice is to take one day at a time it'll take years to get over, i'm lost for words iv'e no idea your pain,but please take one day at a time and look after yourself, be good to yourself, and take great care, the only help i can offer you is maybe go to grieving councillors.they say time is a healer,there is so much help out there for you and plenty professional people you can chat live to , Again my deepest condolences. x

Thank you he went for a scan April came back clear was sick In July first said was a stroke then week later did CT with blue dye n was lung n brain. Cancer xx

Thank you x 

My thoughts and prayers are with you at such a difficult and brutal time, I wish there was something i could say to you,to lift that aching pain in your heart ,ypu've lost your soulmate i couldn't imagine that pain,if it helps to talk please don't hesitate ,please take care of yourself x

Thank you x

Hi flips71

I lost my husband 2 months ago. We were told he would have about 2 years left, but he died 10 days later.

I feel your pain. I know it is hard. It's harder than anything I have ever gone, going through.

I'm functioning but sad.  For me, preparation for the funeral was like the last thing I was able to do for him. Somehow that helped.

But after the funeral everyone around me started to carry on with there lives and i did feel forgotten. 

I try to plan something each day, I do this because I can't spend a whole day on my own in the home we made together without getting upset. 

It might be a walk with my dogs, a grocery shop, or going around mindlessly a garden centre. All these things I used to do, they feel different now.  No longer am I putting his favourite foods in my trolley and that upset me. Going back to an empty house is very hard. I leave a radio on when I go out, that way when I come home it isn't so quiet. 

I talk to friends and family and sound fine but I'm broken inside.

I don't know when this gets easier but people say it does. I hope so. 

Sorry for your loss 10 days that's so sad we was told 3 months without treatment unfortunately he cudnt have it n got just over 3 months the last 2 data were the worst tho,I can still hear his pain in my head when it's quiet X I've lost my dad and aunt last yr not cancer and then hubby 2 weeks ago I think someone got it in for me up there x