My lovely Dad passed away in July after being diagnosed in April and I just don’t feel like I’m coping. If anybody is going through similar, it would be nice to hear how we do this
Hello, I understand how you're feeling. I lost my Dad (whom I adored!) to cancer in April last year. The first few months are a blur but one thing that helped me cope was that I knew my Dad so well, and I knew he would have been genuinely upset if we had all fallen to pieces without him; so I really tried to keep up a routine each day and tried to take everything day by day, and not think beyond that. I found that definitely helped. I focused on small tasks; for example I remember spending ages sanding and painting an old garden bench that had been in his garden for years.
I also found that just accepting all the emotions I was feeling, rather than railing against them, helped me cope with them. One thing which may sound cliched but which I have actually found helped me, was to focus on how lucky I was to have had such a lovely Dad, when some people never get any Dad/ don't get a good Dad. I told remind myself that it was better to have had such a lovely Dad , and feel such grief at his passing, than to have had no Dad at all or a bad one.
Hello, I understand how you're feeling. I lost my Dad (whom I adored!) to cancer in April last year. The first few months are a blur but one thing that helped me cope was that I knew my Dad so well, and I knew he would have been genuinely upset if we had all fallen to pieces without him; so I really tried to keep up a routine each day and tried to take everything day by day, and not think beyond that. I found that definitely helped. I focused on small tasks; for example I remember spending ages sanding and painting an old garden bench that had been in his garden for years.
I also found that just accepting all the emotions I was feeling, rather than railing against them, helped me cope with them. One thing which may sound cliched but which I have actually found helped me, was to focus on how lucky I was to have had such a lovely Dad, when some people never get any Dad/ don't get a good Dad. I told remind myself that it was better to have had such a lovely Dad , and feel such grief at his passing, than to have had no Dad at all or a bad one.
