Miss my mum

I lost my mum on the 26th march 2024 I'm still  so upset as towards the end my mum couldn't talk at all but I so wish she could've spoke to me but she couldn't I miss her so much I gave up my job in 2022 as she had a fall and fractured her hip I looked after her then in 2023 at the end of September she got diagnosed with bladder cancer she was a good age 90 and my mum got a lovely send off but I keep going over things wishing I wished I could've of said more things to her but she was so weak at the end and I kept telling her I will be OK u can let go I had my husband to look after me I got my husband to say to her I will be fine but it's so sad she's gone now and I keep crying at night as I was use to looking after her .xx

  • Hello Bellally

    I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Mum. Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating. 

    Whilst it's a cliche, time is often a great healer when we lose a loved one. It enables us to have some greater insight into our loss and view things without the initial sorrow and keenness of the loss. It is still very early days in your journey with grief so do be kind to yourself, it's ok to have days with you're sad and upset. 

    I can see that we've had another member  post here about the recent loss of their Dad. You might want to consider reading their post and maybe replying with a message. Sometimes being able to chat with someone who is dealing with a similar loss can be helpful. Alternatively, you might want to consider getting in touch with an organisation such as Cruse which can offer bereavement support. 

    Life has changed so much for you in the past few weeks Bellally. I'm glad that you have your husband to offer support and comfort at this difficult time and I hope that in the coming weeks and months, you'll be able to think of the happier times with your Mum. 

    Sending you my best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Thank you jenn very much for your kind words