Losing my darling wife to secondary breast cancer

Hi - I lost my darling wife to secondary breast cancer in January - we were married for 24 years and have 2 fantastic children - 18 and 16 and 1st year university and school respectively. It’s all very raw and I have a whirlwind of emotions - trying to stay strong for the children and becoming mum as well - my god what a job she did for us as a family and it’s now really hitting home that’s she isn’t here and it now becoming very daunting and I feel very lonely  and worried about the future without her. There is no right or wrong way to deal with this and I have lots of friends and family who are around and have been fantastic but I am posting this to see if there are others in my situation who might give me advice or solace outwith the friends and family circle and provide their perspective- I’m the sort of person who likes to talk so if there are  kindred spirits out there who want to reach out and share experiences then I am all ears. I’m starting a  journey and I’ll be keen to hear from other good souls who have been  where I am at just now - Thankyou 

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  • Hi Ian I have not been on here for a long time, just decided to go on and came across yours.  Mine is a similar story.  My husband has been gone 5 yrs from 9/9/19 .  He passed away very suddenly after being diagnosed with lung cancer in the April 2019 which was a massive shock for us .  I too had our two children my youngest just about to turn 16 on 26th September and my eldest was 18 and ready to go to university.  It was all so tough as a close and loving family but we have made 5yrs and my youngest has just turned 21! .  You just have to take it day by day and try and enjoy the fun moments if it’s going out with friends or being around family.  I did get a puppy not long after my husband passed away and she is my saviour helped me so much .  
    how are you doing ? 
    Victoria 

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  • Hi Ian I have not been on here for a long time, just decided to go on and came across yours.  Mine is a similar story.  My husband has been gone 5 yrs from 9/9/19 .  He passed away very suddenly after being diagnosed with lung cancer in the April 2019 which was a massive shock for us .  I too had our two children my youngest just about to turn 16 on 26th September and my eldest was 18 and ready to go to university.  It was all so tough as a close and loving family but we have made 5yrs and my youngest has just turned 21! .  You just have to take it day by day and try and enjoy the fun moments if it’s going out with friends or being around family.  I did get a puppy not long after my husband passed away and she is my saviour helped me so much .  
    how are you doing ? 
    Victoria 

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