I am still coping with loss of my Mum which was 6 months ago, it's now coming up to her Birthday (25/03/45). What we didn't know last year around the time when I was with her for her Birthday..that she would pass away in 6 months time. . Last year from the month of June gave the most distressing & stressful time for me & my Mum . Her Cancer diagnosis in June ( Lung cancer ) & her time in hospital & then in a care home & her passing away much sooner then Expected. Yes my mother Would of been 79 yrs old now & she did have other health complications but my father he had cancer (had died in 1992, he was 56yrs old ) & now my Mum too.
My work colleagues were supporting me with the time off I needed but my family was starting to back off ! & let me "go It alone to cope with this" I FRANKLY DON'T KNOW HOW I DID COPE?
I had an understanding of Palliative care & care given by the Hospice as I have worked in this field & had experience but this insight made things a lot more difficult for me as when I disccussed things with family & friends, I was preparing them for my mum's prognosis and her end of life. As with most family mime had family dymanics complex & Strained.
I managed & got some Control on the way my Mum was cared for..but I had to fight for it. I have been more mindful of the way that Cancer touches almost EVERYONE in their life at some point! You only have to hear about it in the news again Recently. Will we? Do we? ever recover from the loss of someone from Cancer? For me.. I feel so Overwhelming Sad that it couldn't of been treated or the person couldn't make a recovery. & I DID see Suffering. I have had two or three recent episods Of what I call PTSD because I work in a hospital & see something that is a trigger about my mums time in hospital.
Does anyone relate to this... I would like to hear your replies. Let's be Kind to ourselves & give ourselves a hug we have been through something awful.
