Hi Maddon1, 

I hope you don't mind me posting, but I just wanted to check in on you.

I'm not sure if your mum's funeral has happened yet, but if it has I hope you were able to figure out what to do and were able to say goodbye to your mum the way you wanted to.

The grief that comes with losing a loved one will bring about so many thoughts and feelings, just like the ones you mentioned in your post, but I hope you can take some comfort from knowing that we are here for you Maddon and are sending all our strength and support your way.

If you feel it may help to talk to someone then don't hesitate to reach out to your GP, as they will do all they can to help you during this very challenging time. Samaritans are also available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123. They listen without judgement and will do all they can to support you.

If you haven't done so already, you can seek out bereavement counselling and support from charities such as Cruse Bereavement Care and Sue Ryder, the latter of which has an online forum just like this one where you can speak to others who are also grieving and will understand what you are going through right now.

Finally, the mental health charity Mind offer a free 6 week self help programme for anyone who is struggling or going through a difficult period in their life. If you feel this is something that may help, you can find out more just here.

I know nothing I can say or do will take away the pain, but if you can, be kind to yourself Maddon and try to take things one day at a time. 

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator