Hi sorry this is all new to me my dad was a fit active man who only retired last year we noticed weight loss on him and was going back and forth to the gp from January they didn’t lisen and was not concerned in may this year dad had a sore back again back and forth to the gp to be giving tablets etc nothing worked but the doctors was not concerned they said it was due to age fast forward we finally got him into hospital the end of July to find out it wasn’t just a sore back it was cancer and unfortunately this had spread to his lungs liver back etc the week before this he was actually at the seaside with mum looking to buy the holiday home to start there retirement unfortunately the hospital said there was nothing that could be done for dad after a two week stay and managed to get him home by this point he was paralysed from the weight downwards he lasted 2 weeks at home and died this was a big shock to us all because everything happened so quickly I am traumatised my heart breaks for my children and my mum 

mum cannot stay in the house on her own because she has flash backs she Manages to be there threw out the day but then can’t so she currently stays with me my children are broken as dad was like there second dad and done everything for them I feel like I do not have time to grieve because I’m looking after mum and also my children because everything is so broken I’m young myself only 34 I haven’t been back to work since this happened because I can’t bring myself to leave my mum she dosnt drive she only retired last year and is now talking about finding a job herself what I do think will help her she had no family hear apart from us how do people cope with the loss of her dad but trying to be strong for there mum and there own children and how do u get into routine with having mum move in any help appreciated thank you