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Missing my wife so much

glene
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i lost my wife on December 15 2022  we thought she had a trapped nerve but it turned out to be a fast growing cancer  from finding out she had cancer she passed away with in 9 weeks I'm here as i don't know what to do as i miss her everyday  ive cried everyday from 3rd October when we found out she had cancer we was together for 40 years 27/7 we had our own business  we was hardly ever apart i keep thinking its a bad dream  and im going to wake up im just lost   and i dont know what to do to stop all this pain i have  hope it will get better 

  • Hello Glene

    I'm so very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved wife. Grief is a natural process but losing someone we love can be devastating. 

    I know that many of our members here have found it helpful to seek bereavement support, or counselling, following the loss of a loved one. Having a safe space in which you can explore what has happened and your thoughts and feelings can help with grief. If this is something you'd think may be of help for you then you may want to have a look at the website for an organisation called Cruse. They are a national charity that offers bereavement support. 

    You might also want to think about having a chat with your GP. They will be able to help with support and let you know what bereavement services are available in your local area. 

    Undoubtedly you are going through a very difficult time at the moment Glene. Please know that the Cancer Chat community is here to listen and support you. 

    My thoughts are with you. 

    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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    I’m so sorry for your huge loss. I don’t have any additional words of advice outside of what moderator Jenn has said, the bereavement counselling can be very helpful. Take care. 

  • Offline in reply to Djangofan

    I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband of 55 years to a very rare cancer.   He appeared to be fine and then started to complain of a bad back.  We thought he had pulled a muscle, however 4 weeks later he left.    We had been together since being 16.  He was my everything.  It will be the 3rd anniversary in September and I can say that a day does not go by that I wish he was with me as I miss him so much.  I started a book, writing down things I wanted to tell him and how I miss him and this did help me in the early days but there is nothing more devastating than losing someone who is your whole world.  I hope you can find peace xx

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