Hey Guys,

I guess I'm posting here to join the community, in an attempt to seek wisdom, advice and just to mourn with everyone else I guess who has gone through a loss. 

Here’s the story of my mother.

Ireland. Dublin. Mother. Non smoker and non drinker. (Baileys at Christmas). Difficulty swallowing last September October November. Doctors appointment and referral for endoscopy in January 2023….the Irish health system isn’t exactly “quick”.

End of January 2023 stage 4 tumor. Right at the stomach junction. (Eosphageal cancer) Non candidate for chemo so radiotherapy in the hope that the strength improves and symptoms dissipate.

Radiotherapy took place in March. 8 fractions. Initial results look promising. Then boom, the legs went as did everything else. My mother went to the other side on May 1st. I’ll never say I lost my mam because I didn’t . She’s still with me and will be forever.

I'm in my early 30's so I selfishly thought that my mother would at least be around for another ten years but I havnt been afforded that luxury. Does anyone have any general advice or is anyone in the same age group as myself? Thankfully I have a father, and a wife and we're strong but losing a mother is well.....losing a mother doesnt get much heavier than that.

What I will say is; for anyone in this scenario or finding themselves immersed in these circumstances, don’t you give up. There’s always hope and that’s all that matters. My mother lived a good life and I’ll carry her with me forever.