I am so sorry to hear this. Its heartbreaking.

I can sympathise with you. Unfortunately my thoughts are this is the way our society is heading.

When I got diagnosed I was told dont worry we wont let you be on your own. Well, after a couple of weeks those so called friends dwindled down to two and my mum and brother.

All my life I have put others before me, helped when I can but this has taught me a lesson. Even in hospital I looked after the other 2 ladies in our bay. Its just the way I am.

All I can say is when you are ready, start to rebuild your life. Make new friends and try to move on. It may be that in your case people dont know what to say to you. Its just so very sad. You are hurting enough. 

I truly hope that this changes for you though.

Sending you massive hugs 

Gill 

I am so sorry to hear this. Its heartbreaking.

I can sympathise with you. Unfortunately my thoughts are this is the way our society is heading.

When I got diagnosed I was told dont worry we wont let you be on your own. Well, after a couple of weeks those so called friends dwindled down to two and my mum and brother.

All my life I have put others before me, helped when I can but this has taught me a lesson. Even in hospital I looked after the other 2 ladies in our bay. Its just the way I am.

All I can say is when you are ready, start to rebuild your life. Make new friends and try to move on. It may be that in your case people dont know what to say to you. Its just so very sad. You are hurting enough. 

I truly hope that this changes for you though.

Sending you massive hugs 

Gill 

Hi Gill,

I was the opposite, to some degree. I didn't want many people to know. Only close family. But I had to tell a few friends due to prior arrangements etc and then all I got was people contacting me regularly on social media, asking for news about the colonoscopy, the scan, what stage is it, how did the blood tests go, the operation, did they get it all, are you clear....it was, and still is, too much for me. I can actually go for most of the day when I'm at work, without thinking about 'it' until my phone pings. I found it all a bit ghoulish. Imagined them all sitting their 'knitting' like the women by the guillotines, waiting for their phones to ping with my responses. 

I've managed to keep my friends for the most part. I updated them when I felt like it. So everything has to be on my terms, or not at all. So they all know about my recent clear scan and clear colonoscopy and blood test results. 

I hope I don't come across like some selfish, ungrateful bloke, but this is my journey and I want to choose who I sit next to! :happy:  I feel quite at home on this chat forum, to be honest. 

Best wishes to you.

Dave  x