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Struggling with the loss of my dad 6 months ago

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Hi , I'm really struggling with the loss of my dad 6 months ago . I feel my world has stopped.  Stupid things like a woman talking to her husband about potatoes in the street  and I'm thinking my dads in the ground . I've recently had a baby so he sort of keeps me going . I know its new but I just don't know what to do . I write to him on messanger and send photos but I know his phones sat in the drawer.

I feel I have so many unanswered questions . He was ill but he was for years his death was so sudden in hospital .I dont know if I should write a letter to the hospital . I feel angry ,sad and broken . I cant and don't want to think he's not here anymore . I feel life's not fair my kids ,mother & myself have been robbed of so many years . I sit and cry sometimes till I cant cry no more . I feel I let my kids down as im sad and cranky .sorry for long write up just feel better of loading sometimes 

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    Hi Jenolserm,

    I'm sorry for the loss of your Father.

    I lost my dad in November, 8 weeks after a cancer diagnosis. My dad had cancer in 2020 and doctors thought he was recovered. He was fit and active but developed back pain in April, in September we found out it was advanced cancer which was devestating. 

    I moved back in with my parents to provide support and to care for dad and i took a break from work. I also feel like my world has stopped and seeing everyone doing mundane everyday things feels maddening when I feel like I'm falling apart.

    I too have unanswered questions about how doctors could tell us dad was cured but unknown to anyone he had meteststic cancer. The questions go round in a loop in my mind and add to the torment and anger I feel. 

    My mum has lost her husband of 50 years, my nephew will never know his grandad and I have lost my dad who I adore. I miss him so much it is a constant ache and i go from sobbing to feeling so angry. 

    It isn't fair. It is cruel and I think it is normal to feel these things. 

    Sending love.

    Xx

     

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    Hi Jenolserm,

    I'm sorry for the loss of your Father.

    I lost my dad in November, 8 weeks after a cancer diagnosis. My dad had cancer in 2020 and doctors thought he was recovered. He was fit and active but developed back pain in April, in September we found out it was advanced cancer which was devestating. 

    I moved back in with my parents to provide support and to care for dad and i took a break from work. I also feel like my world has stopped and seeing everyone doing mundane everyday things feels maddening when I feel like I'm falling apart.

    I too have unanswered questions about how doctors could tell us dad was cured but unknown to anyone he had meteststic cancer. The questions go round in a loop in my mind and add to the torment and anger I feel. 

    My mum has lost her husband of 50 years, my nephew will never know his grandad and I have lost my dad who I adore. I miss him so much it is a constant ache and i go from sobbing to feeling so angry. 

    It isn't fair. It is cruel and I think it is normal to feel these things. 

    Sending love.

    Xx

     

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