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Lost my partner to oesophageal cancer

Rusty1
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Hi  haven't been on in a while because sadly on the 18th October my partner slipped away from all his suffering with OC cancer, he battled for 18months... he was admitted into hospital numerous times having dangerously low sodium levels , leaving him very poorly with hardly any strength to do anything for himself. The tumour started to bleed and the smell was offensive. He came out of hospital to die with all his family around him . I knew there was no turning point, although he laughed and remained positive throughout his battle . Bless him. ️ I miss him so much
 

 Feeling very heartbroken at this time ... 

anyone who is battling from O C cancer I wish you all the very best. 
And take care xx 

  • Hello Rusty1

    On behalf of the whole Cancer Chat team, I wanted to post to share my sincere condolences on the recent loss of your partner. 

    It's understandably been a difficult time for you all but I'm glad to hear that he was able to spend his final days surrounded by those that loved him and that you were able to share some positive moments of laughter. 

    Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating. If you feel that it may help to talk to someone about your loss then don't be afraid to reach out for bereavement support. I know that other members have found organisations such as Cruse to be invaluable on the journey with grief. 

    Sending my best wishes to you at this difficult time. 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Jenn

    Thank you yes they are good I used these when I lost my mom . Will give them a try xx 

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    Rusty,

    I'm so sorry to read your news. I hope you are OK, when my Mum died of cancer it was hard to know how to feel. Relief because she was no longer in pain, sadness because she was gone, guilt because none of us could prevent it and tired because of all the stress and worry which suddenly ended. 

     

    Best wishes

    Dave

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    Thank you, Yes it's hard to accep, have to think sometimes has this really happend. I thought he would just carry on and one day be cured. Perhaps I've been in a state of denial maybe I'm taking day by day. I'm currently off work I'm exhausted mentally and physically to be honest. The funeral is coming near now

    Take care x x 

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    One day at a time is a cliche, but it is the only sensible approach. Don't rush back to work. The time allowed for compassionate leave may be limited but your GP would probably sign you off on the grounds of anxiety or depression - that's what I used to advise my staff when I was a manager anyway. 
    Things will get better but it will take a lot of time and you need to get past feeling physically and mentally exhausted. 
    A lot of people seem to find that the funeral makes things seem more real. I hope that works for you.

    Good luck

    Dave

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    Thank you yes having the time off is helping me . You've been through a rough ride yourself with O C . It's lovely to hear that you're doing well now. keep taking care of you . And good luck for the future too ️
     

    Rusty ️

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