Dear Jenolserm,

I just came across your post by chance, while looking for information. 

I feel for you so very much and I can relate to so much of what you've written. I'm so sorry that you lost your dad, you have my sincere sympathy. I too lost my lovely dad, 20 years ago now and he was just 67. It's unfair isn't it, especially as you say, when you see much older men walking around and healthy. 

As I write, my lovely mum (80) was suddenly became sick in March and was diagnosed with blood cancer in July. So as a family we're dealing with this awful disease again! 

All the clichés in the world don't take the pain of loss away, but I can only say what helped me when Iost my dad. My daughter was only 4 when he passed. I just talked to him everyday and I still do to this day. Somehow it has helped me with that sick feeling of loss that never leaves you. Just talk to your dad, tell him everything.... 

And you were right to post here. It does help to get feelings out on paper. I write in a journal, letting everything out on paper. 

Be gentle with yourself and cry as much as you need to. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well. 

Take care for now

I feel your pain it's heartbreaking the feelings we get are beyond words... feeling robbed not getting answers why him there is so many questions ... some parents work there life and don't make it to retirement age...

Then the C word is mentioned and from that second your life changes forever...

The love we had for our dads is infinity. We cherish memories and speak of them always, there's the good days and bad, the loss is something we carry forever but the inner strength our parents taught us. We continue our life's for ourselves for our family who keep us going.

You will find strength through time, you will always feel a piece of you wont ever be the same. I know as time has passed I still feel the same way I did from the first day. I continue with strength from my children as to look through there eyes and see there future depends on me just being here.

I feel your pain but take care of each other and one day you will laugh with your children at your memories you shared, you will also have tears on days with a feeling of crushed heavy heart, you grow stronger time is not a healer, we learn how to live with the pain of that journey of our life that we were never prepared for, no one is prepared to lose anyone but the shock of losing a parent to cancer is definitely the hardest of all.

stay strong take care of yourself and each other the things I say is sent to you from this broken heart of mine as I lost my father to cancer it's the first time I have signed in to this site.

Your words are from a crushed heart like mine, on days like this its hard. I just want to send my love thoughts and a little strength your way at the hardest time of your life