my wife, my everything

hello, not sure what to say or do this is all new, my wife and the love of my life was diagnosed with cancer in 2016, it broke us both, but our glass's always half full, and we made the best of it, she fought so brave, she was and always will be a hero to me and our boy, sadly she lost her battle on 6th April 22. and the pain and loss i feel every waking moment is undescribable, I feel dead inside like some one has come and stoly my family, me and my boy are so close and try so hard to not fall apart in front of him, we have started counceling the pair of us, I dont know if it will help, i hope it will because my boy has his whole life ahead of him and dont want this to define the rest of his life, I read a book about a priest who's partner passed away and he summed it up so well, when your partner dies they take your future and identity with them, because i dont know how to be a widow i only know how to be one half of a fantastic mrriage that is no more. sorry for rambling on, just need to vent the million thoughts in my head at once, thank for listening if anyone has.

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  • I'm sorry for your loss. Sometimes it's okay to not be okay and share your emotions with your son too. It's great you are both going through counselling. My heart and thoughts are with you. I recently lost my mum to dementia a few months ago and she was all I had as a family. Just me and her. I'm completely broken but wish I had someone who I could talk to as a family member to grieve together in a way. What was the name of the book you read? 

  • I think the book may be 'The Madness of Grief' by Richard Coles as he was a priest who lost his partner. If not, this book is still a good read and there are many descriptions in the book I am sure so many of us can relate to. I am sorry to read you also lost your Mum this year as did I. My Mum was also my only family (I do have a dad but we don't have a connected relationship, I have struggled with him all my life). Its so heartbreaking losing the one person that was everything. I can completely understand when you say you wish you had someone who you could talk to as a family member to grieve together, I also wish this. I would love to have someone that loved and misses my Mum like I do, so we could talk about her, share stories and cry together, it is hard when it's only you grieving for that special someone. I'm here if you feel like talking about your Mum anytime.

    Jane

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  • I think the book may be 'The Madness of Grief' by Richard Coles as he was a priest who lost his partner. If not, this book is still a good read and there are many descriptions in the book I am sure so many of us can relate to. I am sorry to read you also lost your Mum this year as did I. My Mum was also my only family (I do have a dad but we don't have a connected relationship, I have struggled with him all my life). Its so heartbreaking losing the one person that was everything. I can completely understand when you say you wish you had someone who you could talk to as a family member to grieve together, I also wish this. I would love to have someone that loved and misses my Mum like I do, so we could talk about her, share stories and cry together, it is hard when it's only you grieving for that special someone. I'm here if you feel like talking about your Mum anytime.

    Jane

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