Very sorry to hear about your wife. My wife was diagnosed with grade 3 (very aggressive), stage 3 cancer. Thetumours were large, and had it in lymph nodes.

One thing i have learned since last year, there is absolutely no set pattern to how cancer behaves from person to person. As far as stage 3 goes, my wife was on the cusp of stage 4, due to the size, node spread and the aggressiveness. But somehow it was contained locally. I have read about others with less aggressive tumours, smaller tumours that were given a pre scan stage 2 diagnosis. And the outlook great. Only for the scans to come back saying there was a spot elsewhere. It makes absolutely no sense. Logic dictates they should have been in a better starting position than my wife.

Same holds true for the treatment. Two women with the same cancer, exact same treatment, one gets a full response, the other doesn't get even a dent in her cancer. Again, makes no sense.

I think what I'm trying to say, no matter how much you try to rationalise what happened to your wife, you will just never find that answer you're seeking.  You nor your wife did nothing wrong during the treatment, it was just sheer bad luck.

Hi,

I am so sorry for you loss, I have recently lost my husband to cancer, he was 39 at diagnosis stage- he had stage 3 oesophageal cancer that had already had spread to his liver- he lasted 2 years- cancer works in mysterious ways and unfortunately some spread quicker and are more aggressive than others.

I can't give you advise- I myself am feeling lost, but I'm getting through each day, remembering the happy times- love and hugs to you.  Chelle xx