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Hi there, my mum passed away last June from cancer and at first I was "fine" in the sense that I could go about my day without it affecting me too much. Nearly a year later and she's on my mind 24/7. I'm constantly dreaming about her and as I very much want to keep her in my thoughts, it's starting to give me slight depression and effect my mental state. I was so close to my mum she was my best friend I feel as if my mind can't comprehend the loss. I miss her so much but it's starting to take a toll on my mind. Thank you for reading and any advise would be deeply appreciated. 

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    Hello Ross.

    I'm sorry to hear of your Mums passing. 
     

    Grief is different for all. I was a little similar when my Dad passed away 8 years ago. I hardly grieved at first, I don't even think I cried at his funeral. 6/7 months later it hit me like a sledge hammer. I had a complete meltdown at work. I'm not sure if that was a coping mechanism - my brain was in denial to protect me emotionally or I'd just 'tuned out' so I could be strong for my mum and sister who needed me.

    There's no time limit on grief, so please be kind to yourself. 

    If you find that it's having an impact on your ability to function in your day to day, then perhaps it's time to seek grief counselling support and chat to someone or maybe speak to your GP. It's ok that it's a year down the line x

     

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    Hello Ross.

    I'm sorry to hear of your Mums passing. 
     

    Grief is different for all. I was a little similar when my Dad passed away 8 years ago. I hardly grieved at first, I don't even think I cried at his funeral. 6/7 months later it hit me like a sledge hammer. I had a complete meltdown at work. I'm not sure if that was a coping mechanism - my brain was in denial to protect me emotionally or I'd just 'tuned out' so I could be strong for my mum and sister who needed me.

    There's no time limit on grief, so please be kind to yourself. 

    If you find that it's having an impact on your ability to function in your day to day, then perhaps it's time to seek grief counselling support and chat to someone or maybe speak to your GP. It's ok that it's a year down the line x

     

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