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hi all i don't even know why am posting on here really am just so sad and worried am having a breakdown my mum passed away on the 10th april from a 3year battle with overian cancer we knew she was going to die in the end as she wasn't allowed to have the operation that proberbly would have saved her life she had copd and her lungs wouldn't have been strong enough my mum was my best friend my go to person as my dad was never around now i just feel like i have nobody even tho i have all grown up girls of my own i wish i was with mum not even here any more we have to bury her next week and i feel i don't even want to go to her funeral because i don't want to say goodbye my mum was only 66 and should have had a long life ahead of her left is it normal to feel this sad and will i ever get over loosing her x

  • Hi walshy1180,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and I wanted to send condolences for this.

    This forum can be a safe space to find support from others, or simply to write things down and reach out. So I hope it can be a help to you - we are always here.

    I'm sure there will be others who are going through, or have been through, something similar - so hopefully you'll receive further replies from others on the forum before long.

    I can only imagine how tough things must feel at the moment, especially with it being not long ago. Keep taking things a day at a time, or an hour at a time if it helps. And keep looking after yourself too - speaking to others where you can, and getting any support where you feel you may need it.

    If you feel you're struggling, have a look at Cruse. They have a number of helpful resources for those experiencing grief, and also a helpline.

    If ever things are really tough, you can always give Samaritans a call on freephone 116 123.

    Everyone's journey with grief is different and personal to them. Try to keep believing that things will get easier, or at least more manageable. And keep being kind to yourself.

    As I say, we're always here for support if you need it.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hello 

     

    my mum also passed away on the 10th April after a 14 month battle with cancer. Yesterday was her funeral. I don't have any words other than I feel exactly the same as you. My mum was 63. I feel exhausted with grief for her. 

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    I'm so so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love. 

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    I'm so so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love. 

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    Hello walshy1180, so sorry for your loss, and yes, it is normal to feel the way you do.  The bond between a mother and child is the strongest bond of all, and when we lose our mothers, it is horrendous.  I can tell you that in time, you will learn to live without her.......that does NOT mean that you will get over the loss of her.  Truth is, we never completely get over the loss of those we love, but somehow we learn to live without them.  Take care mate, xx

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