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Hi guys,

I'll introduce myself as an broken personn, I'd like to fix myself but don't know how....... I've had so much happen to me these last few years and I'm struggling to cope I've turned to drink and drugs, hanging around with the wrong people and getting into trouble, I've worked alot with key workers to combat my issues but a recent event sent me off the rails again!! I was abstinent for 5 months so I know I can do it but 

I lost my dad suddenly on the 13rh march 2020, I was a single parent and he used to visit me every day, occupied and entertained my 2 year old son so I could get my housework done, he was wy rock.....I went to *** after he passed.....my son went into foster care so I crashed even more, then I was evicted from my home, my life after that was worthless, all I had was my mum....but I couldn't visit her because of COVID as she was ill and and diagnosed with lung cancer, they gave her 6 months but she suddenly got I'll and she passed away on the 20th December 2022......my head no longer has any room for emotions....I don't think about things anymore because it leads me to distraction......my head's gone west because so much has happened, I've got no one to turn to..... nobody understands... I'm helpless

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    Hi Friend, 

    Im sorry to hear of yout tough time.

    I can somewhat relate to how you feel as i lost my stepfather rather suddenly to a stroke in December 2019, and then my mother to lung cancer in January 2022, i dont have any siblings and i am not in contact with my father. I can understand that it can feel quite lonely to lose those people in such a short period of time.

    I hope that you can strive to improve your life for the ones you have lost, they will be looking down on you and you should live your life to the fullest and appriatete what you wish others could have had. I hope that you can try and reconecct with your son in foster care. he is an connection to your parents and he will be needing you just as much as you need him. 

     

    I hope things improve for you in the long term friend, time does heal wounds. 

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    Hello mate,

    So sorry to hear what you have been through and what you are still going through.  It's no wonder you have gone off the rails......you have lost both of your parents in the space of 3 months and your little boy is in care.......it's enough to make anyone break........BUT, remember, you CAN come back from all of this.  Please focus on your son and let him be the beacon of light that gives you the strength to get yourself back on track.  It won't be easy, but your parents are in spirit doing their best to help you.  Get back in touch with your key workers and start the process of healing and re-claiming your son and your life.  Remember, your son needs you, and you need him.  There is a chinese proverb:  The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.  Take that first step, you can do it.  Good luck my dear.

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