2 Months on and life is getting harder everyday

Mum passed away in January and life is now becoming increasingly more difficult,

I'm back at work as i thought giving myself a sense of normality would help, Although YES it does give me focus (I am currently working from home) I am finding myself staring into my screen, or just staring into "space" i'm not motivated, i'm not eating properly and i just can't sleep, or when i do get sleep i find i just can't be botherd to get up even though i know i have to as i have work.

  • Hello Rainbowsandbuterflys

    I'm so very sorry to hear about the recent loss of your Mum. Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating. It's understandable that you're experiencing these issues at work and I'm glad that you've reached out for some support. 

    Please do speak to your GP in the first instance. It's not uncommon to experience periods of intense sadness and depression after the loss of a loved one but it's important that they're aware of how you're struggling with things at the moment so they support you. I'd also encourage you to have a look at contacting an organisation such as Cruse which will be able to offer bereavement support. I know that many of our members here have found having a safe space in which they can talk to someone about their grief to be incredibly valuable. 

    I don't know what your relationship is like with your Manager or Supervisor at work but perhaps you may want to think about just letting them know that you're struggling. It may be that they're able to suggest some changes to your work life that will help. 

    It's still very early days in your journey with grief so please be kind to yourself RainbowsandButterflys. There is lots of support available and you've made the first step in asking for support by posting here on the forum. Keep in posting if it helps to write down how you're feeling, to chat with others, or to simply offload. But also please do get in touch with your GP. 

    Thinking of you at this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Hi rainsbowsandbutteeflys,

    I'm so sorry for you loss. If it helps at all i'm in exactly the same situation and am feeling and acting the same. My mum died unexpectedly of cancer in early January and I'm back at work, working from home. I'm pretty unmotivated at work, incredibly sad, anxious and can't sleep. I've referred myself for counselling/ mental help support from my GP as this is very hard and I need support.

    I'm told this is all part of the grieving process but goodness it's difficult. I hope you feel better soon or at least get some peace.

     

    Again i'm so sorry for your loss and happy to chat anytime.

     

    Emma xxx