Hi all, first time post but I'm getting more concerned by the day. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic melanoma and it's spread to his lung, liver and spine. He recently had spinal surgery and soon after release had his second immunotherapy treatment. He seemed to have picked up some sort of nasty chest infection and now has no appetite whatsoever. He has THE WORST diorrhea and sleeps for around 18 hours a day. I'm really concerned that these are side effects from immunotherapy. He's collapsed a couple of times which is scary. They seemed to stress the importance of reporting any sides early, so that they can intervene but he doesn't want to go back to hospital. He was waiting three weeks for his surgery and thinks if he goes back he won't ever come home again. Were quite a young couple. I'm 34 and not in any way qualified to deal with this, but he's so irritable and I can't seem to say or do anything right. I can't force him to go seek help or let me do it. He has an older brother. Should I try to arrange an intervention and convince him it's the right thing to get this checked out, or am I wrong for trying to force him into stuff?
