My mum was diagnosed with lung cancer about 4 months ago after 4 months of pains in her ribs. The cancer had already spread to her ribs by diagnosis and her memory was deteriorating rapidly. 2 months ago she had a seizure and there are several places in her brain now showing mets....I didn't even know what mets were till 2 months ago....
Mum has gone from that seizure..not knowing who she was or even being able to stand, to removing a bit of memory and being able to walk with a frame. She is home from hospital after 2 months, but I'm seeing now she get very tired, her memory is quite bad again, and she is really weak and confused at night.
She still eats really well and drinks plenty but her pain in her ribs is bad. I'm staying with my parents to help them, but can't stay forever as I have a family of my own abroad. I just don't know what to expect with this disease, will she stay like this for months? Is she going down hill? Do I have long left with her? Am I safe to leave and come back later or should I stay cos she hasn't got long? I don't know what this looks like at the end...or what to expect. Has anyone been through this and can tell me what I'm faced with?
I love her so much and don't want to miss a thing by leaving if her time left is short...if its months I can go and come back again. Or does that sound selfish...I've never been so torn in my life.
