Hi, 

my dad has pancreatic cancer 6 weeks ago which has spread to his liver, bone and lymph nodes. He was given 6 months but as a nurse myself I know that's optimistic.

he lives alone, my my had to go into a nursing home at just 67 8 weeks ago as my dads health was deteriorating and she couldn't be cared for at home she has copd and heart failure.

my dad is just 69 and gone from being self sufficient to deteriorating rapidly. as I district nurse myself I understand what's happening.

however as a family there's just me and my sister, my brother died 18 months ago from bowel cancer,my mums Dutch do all out family is abroad and there's non over here.

We've managed to get carers which my dad has refused really but he's going off his legs, my sister and I are trying to be there as much as we can but I have small children and we can't be there overnight so we're going late and coming back early. We've asked for help and get told he's not end of life enough which as I nurse I don't get? Both myself and my sister are off sick from work to try and care for my dad but we're on our knees! I feel like he's deteriorating so quickly he's only got weeks but tbh I don't feel supported from the service I work in myself!  Anyone else struggling? 
 

my dad is vomiting, not really eating and going off his legs 

thanks