Hi there
I've taken a lot from reading chats on here. My husband was diagnosed last year during lockdown (which I feel caused 3 month delay to subsequent operation) with cancer, in July and had Op in September followed by radiotherapy. All was going well ....though we had concerns over some swelling in January. Roll on to March when we got the devastating news cancer had spread to lungs, is inoperable with life expectancy around 12 months.
I'm sure those who have been through this will understand how we feel.
We had been very together since this all started but it's just gone all horribly wrong and I constantly feel sick with worry. He's distanced from me, hardly speaks, doesn't want to do anything with me and I feel so hurt.
I know it's awful for him and I do understand he has his own things to deal with. But the way he now is with me has just tipped me, it was emotionally difficult but even more so now. I know things have changed hugely and we no longer have the plans we had.
Folk say make most of time and it just makes me cringe as to be honest it's just awful. I've asked him why but he just won't speak. Maybe he doesn't mean to hurt me but that's all it feels like. I'm hoping if I'm patient he'll be like we were, when we were supporting each other. It's taking me all my effort to try and keep 'normal' when inside I'm in total turmoil.
At moment he's having palliative chemo and I know steroids can affect mood??
