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I'm so lonely & need support. Is there anyone that can help?

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Hi 

My husband has advanced stomach cancer he has had radiotherapy and 2 chemo the tumor had progressed. He was told he needed a stent in he's stomach to help him it but fortunately he didn't need it.

He was sent home basically they told him to get built up and they would see him in a couple of weeks.

I feel like he's holding back on telling me what is really going on I can't really get information from he's cancer nurse whether he will be offered any other treatment.

All she told me was they would not be any chemo.

I feel so lonely the cancer nurse district nurse's and McMillan nurse all day there they for us both

But when I reached our for some support they is no body there.

I feel like there's nothing to look forward to.

I look out of my window and see the car he loved just stuck there never moved since December last year with the tyres flat and I think that's what our life is now just flat.

I can't sleep on a night worry thinking about all the good times we have had in the last 24 years it's like watching a film .

I know he's still with us but I have lost the man I married.

I feel so selfish feeling  like this but I'm not coping at all 

Thanks for listening 

Marie x

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  • Hello Marie

    I'm so sorry to hear that you're really struggling with things at the moment. You are absolutely not being selfish. You're managing so many things at the moment and it's understandable that you're struggling. 

    I'd really encourage you to reach out to your GP for some support in the first instance and I'd also suggest having a look at the Maggie's website. You may find that there's a centre locally for you and they offer all sorts of support services. It may also be that your GP or one of the nurses supporting your husband has some information about local support services that you can access. 

    There's also some really helpful information on the Macmillan website here that you may want to have a read through. 

    Marie, you're most welcome to give our team of nurses a call and chat things through with them. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support that they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. Give them a call. 

    The forum is always here to try and support you, Marie. I hope that it helps to write things down here and please keep posting and let us know how you're getting on. There are many members here who will understand how difficult and lonely it can be when a loved one has cancer so please know that you're not alone. 

    Sending you my best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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  • Hello Marie

    I'm so sorry to hear that you're really struggling with things at the moment. You are absolutely not being selfish. You're managing so many things at the moment and it's understandable that you're struggling. 

    I'd really encourage you to reach out to your GP for some support in the first instance and I'd also suggest having a look at the Maggie's website. You may find that there's a centre locally for you and they offer all sorts of support services. It may also be that your GP or one of the nurses supporting your husband has some information about local support services that you can access. 

    There's also some really helpful information on the Macmillan website here that you may want to have a read through. 

    Marie, you're most welcome to give our team of nurses a call and chat things through with them. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support that they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. Give them a call. 

    The forum is always here to try and support you, Marie. I hope that it helps to write things down here and please keep posting and let us know how you're getting on. There are many members here who will understand how difficult and lonely it can be when a loved one has cancer so please know that you're not alone. 

    Sending you my best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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