Feeling a little lost (selfish maybe)

Hi guys, 

 

i hope everyone is doing well. 
ive been using the group for support on and off for a while now, some of you will know my dad has terminal cancer, colon cancer, secondary liver. His had a stoma fitted, we tried chemo it didnt work amd mow he has folfinox to try and prolong the inevitable.

 

we are a close family, mum and i take care of dad day to day because we live together but my sisters help where they can. I have days where i forget its happening to us, then suddenly something small happens like needing a new tyre, dad sorts that amd i have too and then i remember and it hurts just the same as the day we were told, if not more watching is painful. 
 

i try not to talk to my family, im the strong one you see making the calls doing the hospitals runs sorting finances and emotionally supporting my parents and sisters but its taking its toll. so im just here to be selfish and moan today, sorry if i offrnd anyone xx

  • Hi I'm in the same boat. My dad now lives with me. Hes also recently had a leg amputation. What does folfinox do? Dads meant to have a stent when he gets worse. Hes too weak for an op or chemo. My brother pops in for an hour a week! Wow! I also work and have 2 kids. Its really hard when you have to be the strong one isn't it? Hes selling his house which im sorting and im also trying to sell his unwanted furniture. Nightmare.

  • Hi purplefairy, 

    that must be hard, i have just the one child so i het how hard it is. Folfinox is treatment to prolong his life, it cant cure him but there is s chance it could prolong his life. 
     

    he was really angry last night, he couldnt find something abd became frustrated, we get it the frustration so temd not to take it personal i just hate seeing him in so my h pain. 
     

    how is ur dad getting on? It must be hard for him now his had an amputation but equally as hard for u in different ways. Xx

  • Hi don't worry plenty of people come on the forum to let off steam everyone needs to now and again, and forum is ideal for that purpose.  Class it as a big family All trying to keep each other on the right path never mind what the problems are.

    Have you been in touch with Macmillan or Marie curie they should be able to take some of the strain off and help sort financial services out.

    Don't forget welcome anytime for any reason.

    Billy

  • Hi billygoat, 

     

    you have been amazing through my journey, ive found you and this chat so helpful to myself i cant thank u all enough. 
     

    i have approached a hospice as thats who dad is under, i think i just let things het on top, u forget to look after urself because ur so much more concerened making sure everyone else is ok, but i am habing a day off saturday, my mum said i deserve a day about me and my son so im bery much lookimg forward to that make self fresh again xx