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Heartbroken: my dad has terminal lung cancer

Irelandsshamrock
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My 73yr old dad has spent the last year petrified of catching covid, he done everything by the book in regard to coccooning etc.

After a bleeding adrenal gland we've discovered he has terminal lung cancer with secondary cancer of the adrenal ++. The Dr's haven't offered much hope and my Dad like the hero he is has fully accepted everything.

As a family we're devastated, covid has robbed a whole year of our lives and his grandchildrens lives, we will never get that back. The spark has gone from his eyes, and everyday we lose a little bit more of his life. If we had been able to see more of him this last year we would have noticed the cough and done something about it..

Covid 19 I hate you with a passion.. 

Update: My beloved Dad was in resporitary distress Thursday and gained his wings early hours of Friday morning, he knew we were all present and knew how much he was loved. He just wasn't strong enough. He never got to meet palliative care team, time just wasn't on our side. Gone way too soon..

Thank you all for your kind words, I will pray for you and your loved ones, God Bless

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    Welcome to our forum Irelandsshamrock, 

    I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your poor dad. It is so sad that he had to spend the last year shielding in order not to catch covid and now finds himself with terminal lung cancer. This covid situation is having such a deep impact on everyone's life. How devastating too that because you were not able to see him much in the last year due to covid, you were not able to spot that cough and flag it earlier. 

    I just wanted you to know that we are all here for you and many on our forum will understand what you are going through at the moment and will have faced a similar situation in the current coronavirus climate.

    We're thinking of you and your dad during this difficult time. Is he able to receive any kind of treatment? 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator 

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    My heart aches for you and your family. Your dad sounds like a true hero, just like my (72yo) grandad, who has also being diagnosed with stage 4 metastic lung cancer in November. His diagnosis was such a huge shock! As a family we are struggling everyday to come to terms with it. 
    Like your dad, my grandad has accepted what is happening and is going about his daily life as he did before the diagnosis. We are terrified of losing him, and the reality of what's happening just feels like a terrible dream. 
    Has your dad been offered any treatment? 
    My grandad has just completed four rounds of chemo and now we are in limbo waiting to see what happens next. 

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    Irelandshàmrock, sorry to hear your news. I understand your pain, feeling of helplessness and anger.

    My 76 yr old mum was just diagnosed a couple of weeks ago with lung cancer.  A shock to us all. More so as she lives in Spain now with my dad. We would normally spend the summer with them, the last summer we saw her was Aug 2019. Covid put a stop to last years visit, so it's almost 2 years since we have been able to see mum, let alone hug her.

    We are all devastated. Covid has meant she was too scared to go to the doctors over the last year. I just want to see her in person, bring her back to the UK and spend as much time as possible with her. My mum has always been there for us, and now, I'm not able to be there for her. My heart is broken. 

    Sending strength to you and your family.

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