Hi there ...

So sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... it's truly a crule time ...

But as someone on their cancer journey... my view on life sinse getting that and having a total right masectomy... I live every day ... take all those days as a bonus ... I try to find something every day that makes me smile ... if you live in the day, and build as many memories as you can, then no day is waisted 

No one is promised tomorrow... anyone healthy or with cancer can be gone ... so holding on to the now .. there maybe things he still wants to do .. or see .. yea emotions with cancer is like a rollercoaster... up and positive one minute .. crashing down and scared the next ... we all get that ... 

It's not about being brave ... I think brave is ... being scared witless but you do it any way ... it's about admitting your all scared ... sharing tears ... listening to each other ... walking side by side ... together ... otherwise everyone tries to be brave ... and that just leads to feeling broken and lonely ... separately.. no do this together ... better or worse ... sickness and health ... you can do this...

And if you get knocked down ... give yourself permission to feel what ever emotions you feel ... your not alone ... lots of us here have been where you are now... then get back up ... and boxing gloves back on.. and help him kick cancers butt along the road ... and there's a few on here, [@Billygoat]‍  he's been on the cancer journey of being classed treatable but not curable for years ... and a few others .. so don't give up .... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x 

Thankyou so much for your postive words. I'm so sorry that you have gone through a terrible time. Thankyou again your words have really helped me x

Hi as Chrissie says I've been there still doing that ,I was diagnosed Feb 2016with prostate cancer gone to lymph nodes spine ribs pelvis and a lung told its not curable just treatment options.

Last year told its palative care but still carrying on still fighting and positive, getting knocked down now and again but getting up and fighting again.

I promised my wife I would look after her when she got old she's nearly 14 years older than me when I met her I was 20 I had to keep persuading her to marry me it took 2 years before she said yes that was over 49 years ago , she now has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's.+brain damage caused by mini strokes I'm her official carer, so have to keep going.

Good luck with his treatment.

Remember keep positive

Billy

Hi thankyou for your reply wow you have been through it and still are by the sounds of things. I really admire your strength and resilience.  I'm so sorry for you and your wife it must be so hard every day. I hope my husband has the strength and the fight like you obviously have. Your wife is really blessed to have a husband like you. Thankyou for sharing your story with me it has made me feel alot more postive about things x 

Hi when I was first diagnosed I went on a life time of hormone therapy then had chemotherapy,was supposed to have 10 sessions but was struggling so only had 6  cancer count kept going down for two years then slowly started rising till beginning of last year when it came back quickly, since then I've been on stronger meds actually what they give men wanting sex change,so far count is going back down slowly,(also found I only have to shave once a week now) My bust is still small (fingers crossed) My voice hasn't changed.

Remember thares allways ups and downs never a smooth ride and it hurts relative's as well,you have to look after yourself as well.

Please keep in touch on the forum we class ourselves as a family all working for the same thing helping people with cancer and people helping as well somewhere where people know what your going through and help where we can.

Or you could have a rant if you want.

Take care and keep positive and keep safe.

Billy

Good days, bad days

Good hours, bad hours

Good weeks, bad weeks

Yep, thats the rollercoaster we're all on and it sucks!

Be kind to yourself as you've been thrown in at the deep end and are trying your hardest. No one judges you as you judge yourself xxxx