My husband was diagnosed with kidney cancer 3 years ago at the age of 48: he had his left kidney and a brain met removed, he also had brain hemorrhage due to the brain tumour which left him partially paralyzed down the right side of his body. He didn't have any other treatment other than surgery and has done regularly scans since then. The latest scan showed growth in a small tumour in his lungs (from 5mm to 10mm in 6 months) and an abnormal lymph node. The doctor (whom he hadn't seen before, and who didn't inspire much faith as kept disappearing out of the room without explanation) said they'd decided on radiotherapy as a treatment. My husband hates doctors and scans and everything connected to the hospital. He gets very depressed and stressed, as lots of people do, whenever he has check ups and scans and basically said that he doesn't want to do radiotherapy. During the visit we asked about alternatives - at which point the doctor disappeared again, but returned eventually to suggest immunotherapy but my husband isn't keen on having any traditional treatment (and the doctor also gave a long list of associated side effects). He feels that whatever time he has left, he would rather not spend it going to see doctors etc. I'm finding it hard to cope as, if I were in situation, I would do the radiotherapy, but I know the decision is his. I'm also unsure as to what this means healthwise for him, or how quickly the disease will progress - I suppose there's no clear answer to that. Does anyone have a similar experience?