Stage 4 lung cancer.

Just looking for a bit of advice.

Mum diagnosed 14 months ago, tried chemo but reacted badly and ended up with sepsis. Tried  lower dose and only 1 drug for the course. Cancer still growing. March oncologist decided she couldn't have treatment, due to reactions so passed over to hospice.

Last few weeks she has lost her voice, scan shows fluid around heart and lungs, they arw not removing it. Her mood has slipped and crys every few days. And has spent the last 6 days in bed. Says legs ache, her appetite has decreased too. She has morphine for her breathing and cough. Is this the start of her slipping away. I think I just want to prepare to help her as much as possible.

  • It sounds grim, Millyk. But the hospice is a good place for your Mum to be. They will keep your Mum comfortable and as pain-free as possible. 

    You sound like a very loving daughter. My advice is to carry on as you are doing now. Spend as much time with her as possible (not always easy with our busy lives, and Covid too). I'm sure that's what she wants.  Wishing you all the best. xx Harry

  • Thanks Harry.

    Her care has only been passed over, mum is staying with me, I really want to see her through this as a family.

    We don't really see anyone from hospice to be honest, an occasional call. And they don't really give me any answers. 

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