Hello Paige.

Firstly, I would say don't panic. Some people are living with stage 4 breast cancer for years. That depends on many things, and treatments are so much better than they used to be. But the medics will tell you all you need to know about that.

I won't share much on here with you today other than if you ever need to talk to someone who has been on both sides - I'm your gal. Feel free to message me, I will always reply.

I have Stage 4 breast cancer which had spread throughout both my lungs and liver before I knew.

I didn't stand a chance and was very bitter.

But, 9.5 years after my metastatic diagnosis, I am still here! My prognosis was pretty poor at the start, but it's improved as my treatment is keeping my cancer stable. I have so much to thank my medical team for.

My own mother suffered with breast cancer in my teen years, which recurred for her while I was juggling family and children. The treatments in those days were pretty poor and I lost her when I was 25 and my children were young.

It is horrible. I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

It sounds like you're a pretty tough cookie, but please please seek help for yourself with this too.

I am more than happy to talk to you or your mum about how I deal with my own demons about it all. I can't give advice, as I'm not medically trained, but I would happily share with you some of the things that help me cope ; e.g the coping strategies I use to help me get through.

There are a few posts on here that I have commented on and you might find some of it helpful.

For my own mum, I had to focus on the practical help. She was very old school and did not talk to me about her fears.

My own daughter is now 27, and she is my best friend too. She is a physio, and pretty matter of fact. She told me that I have to adapt to how things are for me today. And, here I am, still adapting like heck!

Huge enormous hugs to you (socially distanced of course!), and all best wishes,

Mary

Xxxx

Thank you so much Mary,

Your words have been such a comfort to me this morning and I can tell you're a very strong lady. I'm sorry you're going through this too, seems very unfair. But so glad your cancer is stable.

I will try to do one day at a time at the moment. I really appreciate the support you offered to me, it's made s real difference xx