My boyfriend has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. It has come as a devastating blow as our dreams and plans are now gone. Due to work and life in general we have not seen much of each other but deeply in love etc.

He was diagnosed 3 weeks ago. Due to circumstances neither of us has a home. He was flat sharing and I was left homeless after a bitter divorce.

As we both come to terms with his diagnosis, he told me tonight that his feelings have not changed for me, he still loves me but that everything has changed and he needs to make new plans. I asked him if they invced me and he said he doesn't know etc.

I just want to spend time with him, he is my world and I live him.

I fully understand he is very confused and has a million things going on in his mind and I feel really guilty for my thoughts as I am not the one dying and having to go through the process but I am feeling so hurt - really horrendously hurt. I desperatley want to share what is left of life with him but he said he cannot tell me that - if I can share in the things he wants to do.

I am feeling so selfish and guilty at my thoughts but so devastatingly hurt.

Is his reaction normal. Will things settle down? Can he still love me? We are not sure how long he has - he will see the oncologist in a week. I cannot see him to have a proper chat as he is in a flat with someone else.