Hi everyone

This is the first time I've ever posted to a forum but myself and my siblings do not know where to turn.

My Dad, who is only 57, was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer on May 20th this year. It had spread and we were told it was terminal but he can try treatment to try and extend his life. In July he had chemo, which he had an extreme reaction to and was hospitalised. He discharged himself against medical advice after 6 days. Since then, it seems like he is deteriorating daily. He had imunotherapy last week but we get the impression it is now too late.

Throughout, my Dad has refused any care from either his GP or our local hospice, apart from the odd phone call.

Myself, my brother and my sister take it in turns to visit him everyday to do anything he needs doing. He is in a very bad way, he cant actually get up. We feel he needs medical care but refuses. 

I am 5 and a half months pregnant, my sister has a 3 year old and a 5 month old and my brother works full time so we are really really struggling. Not just with keeping up with demands but with seeing him look so unwell and having to care for him. He has no other family apart from us 3, and only a few friends who he refuses to speak to.

He is an extremely stubborn man, he has become very snappy and it is far too difficult to have any serious conversations with him.

We have spoken to his GP, the hospital and the hospice and they are unable to provide care without his permission.

This is a very short version of a very long story but I would really like to know if anybody has any advice. I'd really appreciate it.