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Mum has pancreatic cancer

Dav6
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Recently been told my mum has stage 4 pancreatic cancer,  my world has shattered. I dont have any family its only me and my mum and i dont know how am going to cope without her.  Right now she has her good and bad days but shes mostly bed bound.  Her smile is fading each day breaks my heart to see the pain she is in. I dont know how am going to cope without her.  I try to be strong for her but i break down at night, struggling to sleep. I just wish i could help my mum.  Am so lost allready.  

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    Hello, I saw this post and it resonated with me. My mum has today been admitted to a hospice after only 11 weeks since diagnosis. I am heartbroken. I just don't know what to do. I'm really rubbish at talking to people about it, I can't deal with sympathy so do all my crying in private at night on my own. By just know you aren't alone. Xx

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    Dav6 and Renoir I am so sorry to hear about your dear Mums.

    I lost my Mum in January. She had bravely battled stage 4 pancreatic cancer for 2 years and was 62 when she lost her fight.

    I miss my Mum terribly, and now having been diagnosed with breast cancer myself, I must draw on her brave spirit and positivity and fight mine with the strength she had throughout her battle. 

    Mums last stage was heartbreaking to watch, Dav6 I know how hard it is to see someone in pain and the person you love slowly fade. You mentioned your Mum is in alot of pain, is she being looked after by palliative care? They should be able to offer your Mum medication to make her as comfortable as possible.

    I am thinking of you both and sending strength your way. 

    Rachael xx

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    I am sorry for your loss MayBlake and for your recent diagnosis. Life just seems so unfair. I know you cannot look at it like that and it is a lottery but I just feel as though good things do not happen to good people. My mum has spent the last 15 years look after my Dad who had a severe stroke at 54 and I feel like now she has this. It is an awful way to go. We had been caring for her at home but there is such a basic humanity in the care available at home that she was moved to a hospice. What do people without family do? They must be in all sorts of awful situations waiting for their 2/3 visits from carers. I know my Mum does not have long, I just don’t know what you do when it is all over. I cannot imagine. Stay strong xx
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    Hi - my mother also got diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer last Monday she's 71 and so healthy - I'm broken. Do you want to talk? I'm really struggling and I feel it would help if I had support of others going through the exact same situation . My name is Stephanie and I hope you find some comfort in knowing your not alone.

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