Im just interested to hear if anyone else has a loved one who consoles themselves with alcohol. My husband drinks and smokes to block out the awful reality of stage 4 prostate cancer. He's very young to have such advanced cancer and we have a young family with 2 children at junior school. We are all devastated and have been trying to support him through his chemo. When we first found out he was symptomless but now the chemo has taken its toll he is drinking more and more and getting more depressed. I get that hes struggling and needs something to make him feel better but honestly he becomes a different person who is nasty, dismissive, distant and slurry. He says such awful things when hes drunk that have destroyed my trust in him. So much so at points I don't even know who he is anymore. I am struggling to hold it together and to see him like this feels like he is already gone. I worry for the damage this is doing to our chidren. When I ask him to stop drinking so much and to make the most of what time we have while he is in relativly good health he starts threatening to kill himself. Its a vicous cycle and i feel helpless to just watch the man i love slip into oblivion.